FUN FACTORY Stronic Real Rechargeable Realistic Thrusting Vibrator $1699 at Lovehoney Buy Now Anal Beads Definitely one of the more advanced sex toys, anal beads are made up of multiple balls or ribbed, spherical attachments that are designed to be gradually inserted into your anus in order to please and stimulate its many nerves. These toys are usually flexible, and as with any anal toy, will have some kind of handle or stopper at the base. These Sensual Glass Iridescent Anal Beads from Lovehoney are a great starting point—plus, they’re gorgeous.
LOVEHONEY Sensual Glass Iridescent Anal Beads $399 at Lovehoney Buy Now ADVERTISEMENT Palm Vibrators Otherwise known as erogenous zone vibrators, these sex toys consist of a vibrator—usually one that’s rounded or shaped liked a Bintje potato—that can fit in your palm and be applied for direct, rumbly pressure to the clitoris or anywhere else on the body that gives you pleasure. They’re also one of the least-gendered vibes in sex toy design, given that they aren’t phallic, and one of our favorites is this aubergine dream by Dame. Not only is it fully rechargeable and made of super soft silicone, but it’s extremely quiet. DAME Pom External Vibrator $95 at Amazon Buy Now $95 at Dame Buy Now Finger Vibrators As with palm vibrators, finger vibes can be one of the most accessible sex toys for those who may not be able to firmly grip a sex toy, and they’re just as discreet to travel with as a bullet vibrator or a cock ring. They're also popular as couples' toys, since they can be used for focused clitoral stimulation during penetration (or whenever). Just slip this Fin vibe by Dame over your finger, and use it to please you or your partner. But please, don’t stick it up the back door. Remember: No flared base = no entry.
DAME Fin Finger Vibrator $765 at Amazon Buy Now $85 at Dame Buy Now Lipstick Vibrator Traditionally, a lipstick vibrator will indeed look like a tube of lipstick, which is cool in a secret agent sort of way. But the best feature of this kind of sex toy, other than the joy of its novelty, is that the flattened tip allows for a little more direct, vibrating surface area to be applied to the clitoris. As always, Dame has a futuristic and far more minimal take on the toy with their svelte design, and we especially dig that the flat portion of the Kip has even more surface area than your average lipstick vibe. DAME Kip Lipstick Vibrator $75 at Dame Buy Now ADVERTISEMENT Kegel & Ben Wa Balls Remember that scene in Fifty Shades of Grey where Dakota Johnson’s character wears silver kegel or “Ben Wa”' balls to a black tie event? Well, those little weighted balls—NOT to be confused with jade eggs, which we shan’t touch—are simply silicone or metal balls designed to be inserted into the vagina to strengthen pelvic floor muscles, or to give a sense of fullness and stimulation.
LOVEHONEY Main Squeeze Heavy Double Kegel Balls $199 at Lovehoney Buy Now Restraints Now that we’ve slung every last dildo over our shoulder like a Kipling fanny pack, we’re ready to get into some tantalizing BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism) toys and savoir faire. One of the most common accessories of the kink, amongst beginners and experts alike, are restraints. Typically, beginners may enjoy starting off with Velcro hand-cuffs or cloth ties before moving onto more advanced handcuffs such as the Orion, which not only acts as a pair of belt-adjusted handcuffs, but is also capable of being slung over the door for some extra kinky times. UNBOUND BABES Orion Over the Door Restraint Set $39 at Unbound Babes Buy Now Nipple Clamps We were given nipples for a number of reasons, but our favorite might just be horny clamping. Nipple clamps, such as these bad boys from Bondage Boutique, walk the line between sex toy jewelery and BDSM accessory, because they’re designed to lightly pinch your nips (and sometimes, your clit) and are often secured to a stylish collar or chain that would make you the belle of the ball at any Berlin Diskothek.
Chastity Belt VibratorBONDAGE BOUTIQUE Adjustable Nipple Clamps with Double Chain $199 at Lovehoney Buy Now ADVERTISEMENT Gags Gags can take on many forms in BDSM play, but most commonly as a cloth gag around the mouth, or as a gag with a bar or a ball gag. Typically, the sphere or bar will be made of a body-safe silicone, as other materials might damage those pearly whites of yours. This gag is great for beginners, as it has a few extra holes in the ball for extra breathability. ZHEXU Beginner's Ball Gag $52 at Amazon Buy Now Paddles & Riding Crops Who doesn’t like a little spanking, now and again? Whether your dom is using a 16-inch bamboo paddle, riding crop, or a spanker that looks like it was made out of Furbies, these are great sex toys for a little kinky foreplay, or even a game of shuttlecock. This silver paddle has a 7-star rating on Lovehoney because it’s great for seasoned spankers and beginners alike; one side is made out of a padded satin and the other is a firmer faux leather.
FIFTY SHADES OF GREY Twitchy Palm Spanking Paddle $281 at Amazon Buy Now $399 $50 at Lovehoney Buy Now E-Stim Toys Erotic electrostimulation (E-stim) is a kink in which a person enjoys receiving or giving a bit of light electric stimulation through electrically endowed paddles, wands, and patches. It’s important to practice this kink correctly, but once its parameters are understood, it can make for some fun horny Frankenstein roleplay. ELECTROSHOCK E-Stim Paddle $796 at PinkCherry Buy Now Pinwheels …Not the kind you find blowing in your aunt’s garden. These spiky pinwheels or “Wartenberg” wheels are very common in people with a sexual medical fetish, or anyone with an especially sensory kinky side to them. As with every sex toy—and especially those falling under the traditional BDSM umbrella—be sure to use them correctly by applying only the slightest pressure to yourself or your partner, and never inserting them into your body.
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Frequently Asked QuestionsThe thing is, when it comes to sex toys (and sex education in general, if I’m being honest), there just isn’t a lot of good, trustworthy information out there. Why? There are a lot of reasons, mostly to do with shame. There are countless problems with sexual shame and our society’s fraught relationship with it, but sex toys can be especially confusing. If you want a vibrator and you buy a dildo, you’re going to be disappointed. If you buy a vibrator that isn’t made for anal play and use it for anal penetration? You could wind up in the emergency room. What’s more, the Food and Drug Administration doesn’t regulate sex-toy materials in the U.S. This means that companies can make sex toys out of whatever the hell they want with very little consequence. Read: Companies can make sex toys that go in your body out of materials that aren’t safe for your body—such as jelly or low-grade rubber. Don’t worry: We have all the information you need so you can go forth on your sex-toy journey prepared and armed with information. Because you deserve to know what’s making you orgasm. Vulva Toys: Dildos vs. Vibrators What’s the confusion? The shape. The classic dildo and rabbit vibrators (of Sex and the City fame and still the most popular sex toy for vulva owners) both have a long, phallic shape. They look relatively similar and are both made for penetration, so they are often mixed up. Let’s break them down:
Dildos: A dildo is a long, cylindrical sex toy that, in its most basic form, looks like a penis. Luckily, there are now so many different shapes, sizes, and colors that the scary penis-centric image of the dildo has transformed. People still buy real-dick-looking dildos, but you have options. The notable thing about dildos is that they don’t vibrate. “A dildo is a phallic-shaped object that can be inserted into an orifice,” Kenneth Play, an international educator and sex hacker, tells TheBody. And, sometimes, they are curved to reach the G-spot area. Vibrators: What makes a vibrator? You guessed it—they vibrate. Vibrators are, in my opinion, the most nuanced and complex category of sex toys because there are a zillion different shapes and sizes. They are designed for either external or internal use (or both), depending on their shape and size. It’s important to note that while a vulva/vagina toy might be designed for external or internal use, you can experiment and use them for one or the other, or both. The vagina is a closed-off canal. Your toys won’t get lost, I promise!
Who doesn’t love a good subcategory, amiright? Let’s break them down (again). External vibrators (bullets, finger vibes): These toys are used for external stimulation of the clitoris. “Both bullet and finger vibrators are small enough to fit in the palm of your hand,” erotic educator Taylor Sparks tells TheBody. “The ones called bullet vibrators tend to be shaped like ... bullets or at least are cylindrical in shape. Finger vibrators are similar to bullet vibes but have a loop so that you can slip it on your finger and it becomes an extension of your own hand. You can find them both at varying speeds and intensities.” Internal vibrators (G-spot wands): Internal vibrators have the same “phallic,” cylindrical length of a dildo, only they vibrate. What’s more, they are usually shaped with a curved head, designed to reach the G-spot area. “Some vulva owners like the feeling of the vibrations on their G-spots, while others may enjoy it being rubbed back and forth or round and round. So a G-spot vibrator can be used to stimulate this area on or off,” says Sparks, who is the founder of Organic Loven, the largest Black, indigenous, and people of color (BIPOC)–owned online intimacy shop. Dual vibrators (rabbits, dual wands): As mentioned, the rabbit is the most popular form of vibrator to this day, thanks to Samantha Jones. Dual vibrators combine clitoral and G-spot stimulation for a full, internally and externally stimulating experience. They have a vibrating, cylindrical base and an attached, external head designed to reach the glans clitoris. Some vulva owners love them, some don’t. Get curious and experiment.
Best Flesh LightAnal Toys: Anal Beads vs. Anal Dildos vs. Anal Plugs Anal toys are in their own special category for one big reason: safety. The anus has two rings: the outside ring (the one you can flex when you tighten your butthole) and an inner ring, which we cannot control. The inner ring has truly astonishing sucking power—it can take toys right up and away. Anal toys are specifically designed to avoid this pitfall: They have a flared base, designed to act as a stopper. All forms of butt toys come in both vibrating and non-vibrating versions. Read the toy’s description before you purchase. Let’s break them down: Anal plugs: Anal plugs look like, well, plugs. Butt plugs have a flared base. Never, ever put anything up your bum that doesn’t have a flared base. From this article to God’s ears. “They tend to be tear-shaped with a wide base to keep them from being ‘sucked up’ into the anal canal. They come [in] vibrating and non-vibrating [models] and in many materials—silicone, glass, and even wood,” Sparks explains. Anal dildos: Anal dildos are usually best paired with a strap-on for pegging. They fit into a harness (such as the cloth harness from SpareParts) and can be used for anal sex. They look very similar to classic dildos—only they have a flared base. Start with smaller anal dildos before moving up to bigger sizes. Communicate with your partner and let them know if anything feels uncomfortable. Anal beads: “Anal beads come in a string of beads, like on a bracelet,” Play tells us. The idea is to insert the beads, one at a time, to stimulate the nerve-rich anal opening. When you’re about to orgasm, you (or a partner) can remove the anal beads one at a time. This can increase your sensation. Play notes that you should always choose anal beads that come with a flared bottom, so you don’t lose them up your bum.
I cannot stress this enough: FLARED BASES FOR BUMS ONLY. Penis Toys: C*ckrings, Masturbation Sleeves, etc. Lastly, we would be remiss not to mention toys designed for penises. Penis toys are important to understand before using them, but they come with fewer risks. You’re not going to lose a penis ring up your urethra the way one might lose a non-anal dildo up a tight sphincter. Let’s break them down: C-rings: C*ckrings are rings that go around the base of the penis to restrict blood flow. This can help with greater control over climax, longer erections, and more intense orgasms. Be sure that the c-ring you’re using is made of body-safe or medical-grade silicone. Use a reliable, water-based lubricant to help with friction. Do not exceed 20 minutes when using one, as this can cause injury.
Masturbation sleeves: Masturbation sleeves are exactly what the name says: A sleeve for masturbation. Its most rudimentary model might be familiar: the Fleshlight. The Fleshlight is designed to look like a vagina or anus. It has a bad reputation as being seedy and weird, but I chalk this up to our culture’s shame around sex. Men and all penis owners have every right to pleasure and orgasms, too. Plus, you don’t need to get a grimy-looking toy anymore. Sex-toy company Tenga has taken the lead in creating masturbation sleeves that are truly works of art. Party on! Vibrators: Vibrators are made for vulvas, but they can be used for penises too! They are versatile—so long as you’re keeping them away from your anus. Try using a wand vibrator on the head of your penis and see how it feels. Don’t forget lube! If your sex life is feeling a bit stale, or ...well ... just not getting the job done, you're not alone. The FDA reports that 43% of women have some form of sexual dysfunction — which is higher than the number of men (31%). Sometimes, there's a biological or psychological cause. But if you're simply in a slump, or sex has slipped off the relationship priority list, sex toys are one way to amp up a woman's sexual pleasure and help her reach orgasm. In a recent Harris Poll survey, 71% of women ages 18 to 34 agreed that using sex toys added intimacy in the bedroom. Even better? They've never been so tech smart, better designed, or more widely available.
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There’s never a bad time to invest in a little extra self-care. These are some of our favorite sex toys, vibrators, smart vibrators, personal wand massagers, and accessories, all of which we’ve personally tested. There’s something here for everyone, every gender, and every body. The language on these products isn’t always gender-inclusive, but we approached testing with a gender-inclusive mindset, testing these with a variety of different genitals, bodies, and partners. Still don't see anything you like? Be sure to check out our other bedroom-related guides on the Best Sounds for Sleep, the Best Mattresses, and the Best Sound Machines. Updated May 2022: We added the Lelo Enigma, Coconu Lube, added a section on erogenous zones, removed the Lora DiCarlo Ose 2, Fun Factory Laya II, and adjusted prices. Special offer for Gear readers: Get a 1-year subscription to WIRED for $5 ($25 off). This includes unlimited access to WIRED.com and our print magazine (if you'd like). Subscriptions help fund the work we do every day.
If you buy something using links in our stories, we may earn a commission. This helps support our journalism. Learn more. Please also consider subscribing to WIRED Image may contain Screen Electronics Projection Screen and White Board Which Toys Are For My Body? Beyond P & V The sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but that’s reductive, inaccurate, and contributes to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. It’s unhelpful and I have a lot of feelings about it. To that end, we opt to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones—and there are way more than just P and V. The vulva is the exterior part of the vagina. It includes the labia majora, labia minora, the urethra, and the clitoris. The clitoris is the center of erogenous nerves in the vulva, and it’s actually much larger than just the exterior portion. Its internal structures extend down to either side of the vagina, which is where you’ll find the G-spot—the area stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
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Shopping Tips If you’re new to sex toys, shopping for your first one can be intimidating. There are a lot of not-so-great and flat-out-bad sex toys. Ask Yourself Questions How do you like to be touched? What kind of experience are you looking for? Are you interested in trying something new? Do you want something for internal or external use? One of our favorite resources is Wild Flower. It’s both a sex shop and a sex toy manufacturer. The site has a robust series of educational articles and a great Q&A section. You can even ask the company questions via Instagram. You should also check out Oh Joy Sex Toy, a fantastic webcomic by artist Erika Moen. It’s an excellent resource for toy reviews and all kinds of sexual education content. Take a Trip to a Store (or YouTube) Once you have some idea of what you want to try, you should try to find a local (gender-inclusive) sex shop and see if they have the toy you’re curious about. The feel, the texture, the weight, how the vibration feels—these are things that really benefit from some hands-on time. Of course, that’s not always an option, especially during a pandemic. YouTube has a lot of hands-on videos. It’s not as good as feeling the toy yourself, but it’s the closest you can get without leaving your home. Good luck! With the use of sex toys being less taboo than ever before, people of all ages and genders are discovering new ways to feel pleasure in the bedroom. But despite the surge in the sex toy market (with sexual wellness searches up by 123% across the globe last year), purchasing your first toy as a beginner can feel somewhat intimidating. Don't know your bullets from your g-spot stimulators? Don't panic. We asked Laura Wood, Sales Executive and Expert at So Divine to give us her top tips for sex toy newbies, as well as her top picks for beginners.
Best Anal FleshlightWhich type of toy is best for a beginner? If you’re new to the world of sex toys then choosing a toy can seem pretty daunting. Sex toys offer a whole variety of different sensations and there’s plenty to choose from depending on what you are looking for! See below for some of our top toys we would recommend for beginners. Bullet Vibrators Bullet vibrators are perfect for any sex toy newbie. They’re discreet, easy-to-use and make a gentle intro for newcomers. They can be used to stimulate all of your erogenous zones using the tapered tip. Our Afternoon Delight bullet is a great choice for beginner looking to purchase their first toy.
Dildos Penetrative toys such as a dildos are another great choice for beginners. You won’t have to worry about fiddling with any buttons and they are super-straight forward to use. When choosing your first dildo we would recommend check the length and girth first. Like all sex toys, it’s good to build up the size slowly. A dildo with a suction cup is also a good idea so can you enjoy a hands-free play. The So Divine Glorious dildo is a great contender for this! Cock rings Cock rings are another great go-to toy for beginners and are fun to use with your partner during sex. They can keep penis owners harder for longer by restricting blood flow ensuring a harder, longer-lasting erection. If you choose a vibrating cock ring such as our Thriller 2in1 ring you can both enjoy pleasure at the same time. Butt Plugs Butt Plugs are a great option for beginners and those who are wanting to explore some booty play. They can also be used by any gender! The So Divine Sweet Sensation plug is ideal for beginners. It’s small and petite, tapered for easy insertion and has a flared base. Flared bases are super important when looking to try a butt plug for the first time so you can ensure nothing gets lost!
Do I need to use lube with sex toys? Lube is a secret weapon that can be used by everyone and can be quite often forgotten about. It’s a bedroom essential! A little dab of lube can make stimulation much more comfortable during your solo sessions or with a partner. If you’ve not already tried using lube whilst masturbating then we highly recommend trying it. We would recommend using a water-based lubricant to start off with! Which sexual wellness products are essential for a beginner’s starter kit? An ideal starter kit for beginners would include a mix of clitoral and penetrative toys. A bullet vibrator, a classic dildo and a water-based lubricant would be a great choice. This allows you to explore a variety of sensations so you can learn what you like. Lubricants are also a game changer and can bring new sensations to play. Should I opt for a g-spot device or a clitoral stimulator? Choosing the right toy can depend on which sensations you enjoy or are looking to explore. G-spot vibrators are great for exploring your internal pleasure spot, whilst clitoral stimulators are ideal for clitoral stimulation. If your goal is to orgasm, then a clitoral stimulator may be a good choice as the majority of vulva owners need clitoral stimulation to reach climax.
Fleshlight SaleWhat’s the difference between a suction vibrator and a wand vibrator? Clitoral suction stimulators are gamechangers in the world of sex toys and are ideal for those who want to try something different. These toys work by mimicking oral sex and offering a unique sensation to other classic clitoral toys. The irreplaceable suction stimulator is a super popular choice and if you read the reviews you can find out why! Wand vibrators (or massaging wands as they are also commonly called) are great as a multifunctional product. They can be used for clitoral stimulation but also as an all-over-body massage. You can used them to give a seductive massage during foreplay. Our portable ‘Smooth Operator’ massaging wand is great for beginners due to it’s compact size. What advice do you have for beginners who are nervous, unsure or embarrassed about using sex toys for the first time? Make sure you do not feel rushed if you are not ready! Take your time, do your research and make sure you are comfortable before buying. Nowadays, purchasing a sex toy is easier than ever and you can purchase online to avoid any embarrassment when shopping in stores. This also gives you enough time to research products so you can find what you really like. Take your time, do your research and make sure you are comfortable before buying
The majority of toys also come in discreet packaging, so you do not have to feel any embarrassment when it comes through the post. How do you take care of sex toys and keep them clean? Keeping your toys in the prime condition has never been easier! We recommend cleaning your toy before and after every use with warm water and a sterilising fluid or toy cleaner. Ensure the toy is completely dry before storing and always remember to store your toys separately using a toy storage bag, box or even a clean sock. Always make sure you use an alcohol-free cleaner/soap as alcohol may erode certain sex toy materials. Can you use sex toys with a partner? Yes! Sex toys can offer you and your partner a range of exciting added sensations that might not be possible with fingers, tongues and genitals alone. Sex toys can create unique opportunities for pleasure and bonding! Want to spice up your sex life? Try adding in sex toys during play, but always do this with consent first to ensure you are both comfortable using them. Sex toys can offer you and your partner a range of exciting added sensations
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Read more: 10 best sex toys for couples that keep things interesting 5 best sex games for couples to spice things up 6 best remote controlled vibrators for hands-free fun 9 best quiet vibrators that don’t compromise on performance The best sex toys for 2022 are: Best overall – We Vibe tango bullet: £536, Amazon.co.uk Best quiet vibrator – Je Joue uma: £75, Jejoue.co.uk Best for new sensations – Luxury metal rabbit: £550, Annsummers.com Best for experienced sex toy users – Smile Makers The Poet: £1195, Smilemakerscollection.com Best classic vibrator – Womanizer starlet 4 function clitoral stimulator: £699, Bondara.co.uk Best men’s one-stop shop – Fleshlight: £699, Amazon.co.uk Best erection aid – Bondara set of three cock rings: £49, Bondara.co.uk
Best for adventurous men – Lelo Bruno: £149, Lelo.com Best budget buy – Rocks off bullet: £99, Rocks-off.com Best for the curious – Ann Summers slim recharging and rotating rabbit: £42, Annsummers.com Best tasteful toy – Massage candle, kiki de montparnasse: £80, Kikimd.com Best for absolutely everyone – Pjur lubricant: £33, Amazon.co.uk Best for mutual orgasms – Lelo tiani: £90.30, Lelo.com Best for couples wanting to explore – Glass butt plug: £20.99, Loveplugs.co.uk Best vibrators We-Vibe tango bullet: £536, Amazon.co.uk (We Vibe ) Best: Overall Rating: 10/10 The We-Vibe bullet is the foundation of any truly great collection of sex toys. It’s got a round, fulsome vibration that other toys of the same size just can’t compete with. The speeds are many and will satisfy anyone from newbies to old hands – the preset vibration patterns are surprising in all the right ways. It recharges quickly and lasts for years and years. It’s not a cheap toy, but like a cashmere jumper or the perfect Little Black Dress, it’s an investment piece. Buy now Je Joue uma: £75, Jejoue.co.uk (Je Joue ) Best: All-rounder vibrator Rating: 8/10 The classic vibrator – a vibrating shaft – is often underrated. But this is a real gem. It’s soft to the touch and incredibly quiet to use. It’s versatile – suitable to be used for clitoral or internal stimulation, and completely waterproof so you can use it in the shower or bath if you don’t live in a home where privacy is easy to come by. It’s marketed as being a g-spot stimulator, and it’s very good at its official job, but this toy is a real all-rounder.
Best Male MasterbatorsBuy now (Ann Summers) Best: For new sensations Rating: 9/10 Ever since Charlotte got addicted to her rabbit in Sex And The City, the rampant rabbit has been a favourite. It’s one of the world’s most popular sex toys for an extremely good reason: because it combines penetration and clitoral stimulation in a way that no other toy has ever been able to compare to. There are lots of different types of rabbits, but this one pays equal attention to internal and clitoral stimulation, so it’s arguably the best of the best. This rabbit is a little different from your average rampant rabbit because the shaft is metal, which means that it’s often a little cooler to the touch, and that the vibration feels slightly crisper. Buy now Best toys for women (iDOO) Best: For experienced sex toy users Rating: 9/10
The Poet is the latest offering from Smile Makers, famous for being the first sex toys on Gwyneth Paltrow’s Goop, and for naming its toys after pin-up occupations (“The Fireman” and “The Tennis Instructor”). The Poet is Smile Makers’ take on the clitoral suction vibrator. But, rather than just emulating the same glorious technology other companies have created, The Poet adds something extra. The sides of the toy are a control, so you can make it more intense by squeezing the toy while using it. It takes a little practice to get a perfect control over the toy, but it functions as an additional layer of mindfulness, making you completely tune into your body as you adjust it. You effectively create a bespoke setting for every single use. Buy now Womanizer starlet 4 function clitoral stimulator: £699, Bondara.co.uk (iDOO) Best: Classic vibrator Rating: 10/10
Most clitoral suction vibrators are pretty amazing, but this one happens to be a classic of the genre. It’s a very similar version to the one Lily Allen released in 2020. It comes in a pretty coral colour and the technology is just fantastic. Many women who have struggled to achieve orgasm through sex or traditional vibrators have found that the Womanizer toys can change all of that in a matter of minutes. It also holds a charge for an impressively long time and comes with a great variety of settings and speeds. Buy now Best toys for men Fleshlight: £699, Amazon.co.uk (Fleshlight) Best: Men’s one-stop-shop toy Rating: 9/10 There’s plenty of stigma around male sex toys, which is very unfair and nonsensical, given that we know that male masturbation is a) incredibly common and b) very healthy. The Fleshlight is one of the most famous sex toys, though the term “infamous” might be a more apt description. But they’re actually incredibly cleverly designed toys that get glowing reviews. If you’d like to elevate your masturbation from just a session with your own hand, the Fleshlight is absolutely the first place to start. This version is rather more discrete in design which might appeal to first timers.
Male Masturbation DevicesBuy now Bondara set of three cock rings: £49, Bondara.co.uk (Bondara ) Best: Erection aid Rating: 10/10 There’s absolutely nothing wrong with keeping it simple, which is exactly what these Bondara cock rings do. They’re a tactile, stretchy material which is (apparently) very comfortable to wear. You should use it in conjunction with a water-based lubricant. Many of the reviews from men who suffer with erectile disfunction say that these rings have helped them to maintain an erection during sex. Even those who don’t struggle to maintain an erection might well find that these rings help them to stay even harder for longer. Buy now Lelo Bruno: £149, Lelo.com (Lelo) Best: For adventurous men
The Bruno is a sleek piece of kit, because Lelo have a real talent for making sex toys look like beautifully designed pieces of art. The Bruno is smooth, sleek and easy to use. If you’ve ever wanted to experience prostate massage, or if you’re already an old hand with all things male g-spot, this is guaranteed to please. Make sure you’ve got a decent lube on hand before trying to use it, and be prepared to feel something incredibly intense. Buy now Best toys for beginners Rocks off bullet: £99, Rocks-off.com (Bondara ) Best: Budget buy Rating: 8/10 The Rocks Off bullet is a gloriously inexpensive piece of sex tech. It comes at a variety of price points, but if you’re investing in your first sex toy, you might want to pick the cheapest one. It’s the best-selling single speed vibrator in the world, and the single speed is a lovely medium. If you know that you like extremely light stimulation, or that you need something a bit more intense to reach orgasm, then they have multi-speed alternatives.
These bullets are the perfect toy to use during sex. Stick to your regular routine, but include a bullet for clitoral stimulation, and watch how quickly your sex life goes from “nice” to “we have got to do that again RIGHT NOW.” Buy now Ann Summers slim recharging and rotating rabbit: £42, Annsummers.com (Ann Summers) Best: For the curious Rating: 9/10 If you’ve never used a vibrator before, or if you’ve only ever used a bullet, then the rabbit could seem slightly intimidating. This version is rather smaller than some of the other rabbit offerings, which makes it a perfect first place to start. All of the same intense, incredible stimulation, but packed into a slightly smaller package. Plus, it’s rechargeable so you don’t have to worry about stealing batteries from your TV remote control.
Buy now Massage candle, kiki de montparnasse: £80, Kikimd.com ( Kiki de Montparnasse) Best: Tasteful toy Rating: 9/10 For anyone who wants to make their sex life a little more adventurous without going the whole whips and chains route, a massage candle is a delightful place to start. It burns at a super low temperature, and once the wax has melted you and your partner can pour it onto each other’s skin, using it as massage oil. Hold the candle higher if you like the wax cooler, or closer if you like it to be a little more piquant. This particular candle smells utterly divine and leaves your skin feeling like you’ve been at a spa.